I figured, why not attempt to embrace it and soak up every minute of this very chaotic period of every person’s life. That stage where you don’t quite have it together yet, you have an idea of how to get there, but the entire act is still being played out. So we enter the world of our mid-twenties, and turning 24 defines me as such. So why not make sure and live it up, in honor of my birthday and things needing to be done, things already accomplished, and things that just make life worth living:
1. “Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.”
As weird as it may sound, become friends with your parents, really get to know them; in a way stop thinking of them as parents and more like cohorts. You are far more alike than you know, and my getting to them better you may be surprised and learn a little more about yourself.
2. “Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.”
I am not so sure how much I want to go running about kissing random men, I understand the point; get out and live don’t sit there and wish you were doing something with someone somewhere, just do it or I’m sure you will regret it, learn to live in the now.
3. “Minimize your passivity.” stand up for what you believe in, if you feel as though something should be changed for the better don’t just stand by the wayside waiting for someone else to take the spotlight; get the ball rolling!
4. “Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day.”
This is such a true thing, working as a customer service representative now as a full time job, it really makes me appreciate such great service in return; it also makes me very frustrated when other companies (such as apartment complexes that are supposed to make their tenants feel at home but in reality the staff is so very rude you could never think of that way) do not reciprocate the same level of customer service that I provide at my job every single day.
5. ” Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met.”
Although I may not have many opportunities to be out and about at 5:30 am, its really about embracing the moment and appreciating the time you have to be free. Soon enough there will be a family and kids in the equation and those little moments of freedom will be fewer and farer between.
6. ” Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.”
Enough said, you have to work to get to where you want to be. Sure you may not have your dream job right out of the gates, but the majority of people don’t. You work hard, you figure out what you like, what you hate, and you grow and build from there. Embrace the grind because later on it will pay off.
7. “If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.”
Save, save, save. Spend a little, indulge to keep yourself sane but always be thinking of the future, and that last minute car repair that could make or break rent that month.
8. ” Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet.”
This is something we all need to remember, all the time. We need to remember how to interact without checking Instagram every 5 seconds. I am one of the worst, I am so addicted to my phone it is not even funny. Long runs when it is me the road and my music make me really remember how refreshing it can be to just take a break from technology.
9. “Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.” Just do it. Do you need a reason? I think not.
10. “Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.”
As terrifying as this may be, it could also be the leap of faith you are looking for. And hey what do you have to lose? If anything they may just reciprocate the same.
11. “Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun.”
It is one of the hardest things for me to do, is say no. However with time, to be happy, sometimes you just have to say NO because that is what is best for you. Say no the relationship that is going nowhere, say no to the people who cause you to be unhappy, and get out there and be with who makes you the best version of you.
12. “Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be.”
Flashback Friday’s are not a bad thing, don’t get stuck in the past wishing you were there because it will never be that way again, but always thing back and visit those times that built you into the person you are today.
13. “Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to.”
Find something that you look forward to doing when you are home alone with nothing to do, run, sew, paint, do yoga; whatever gets you in that state of true bliss.
14. “Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you.”
Always be content with yourself, honor your flaws and realize they are something you have to live with. However that does not mean that others can not inspire to live up to your full potentially just a little bit more. Anyone who can influence anyone to be a better person, that is never a bad thing.
15. “Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.” Again playing off #14, be the change you want to see, be the person you want to encounter on the street, be the customer service representative that really makes a customer’s day. Just be the change you want to see in the world.
16. “Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.”
Figure out what makes you scared, and conquer it; don’t let fear of anything or anyone dictate how you live and plan your life.
17. “Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.”
No need for explanations, sometimes the best of us even need to follow their own advice. Tie up loose ends and move on if it is for the better.
18. “Stop hating yourself.” How an anyone possibly love you if you don’t? Look in the mirror and see someone who deserves everything she wants and needs. Sure maybe you need to lose a few pounds but that is no reason to hate yourself, there is always something beautiful you can distinguish.
19. “Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.” Catch up on those things that you have been putting by the wayside.
20. “Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.” Or be blessed to work for a company with incredible insurance
21. “Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.”
But take this with a grain of salt, don’t go shooting back raging e-mails in the heat of the moment, step back save a draft, and come back to that e-mail a few hours, maybe even a day later and go over that response with a more level head.
22. “Date someone who says, “I love you” first.” – essentially, date someone who gives a shit about you. Enough said.
23. “Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.”
Travel, travel, travel, it is something I already regret not being able to do enough. Study abroad, take a job over sees, do something to see the world before you are tied down
24. “Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.” Or get a computer you are really proud of and will want to use for a long time
25. “Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.”
No additional explanation needed. Do what makes you happy, drop what doesn’t enough said. Once you have hit your mid-twenties, what is the point of keeping up with the drama. Just drop the people and things that cause that strife and embrace being almost a quarter of a century old.
(photo Credit Levo League)
This one was a long one! I won’t be offended if you don’t read it all, These are all such things to keep in mind, especially on the eve of my birthday weekend. Hope everyone has a festive fall equinox! TTFN xox Birthday girl #GFP